Stop Being A Prisoner in Your Own Body

As human beings we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. To any men reading this article, this is not just a “female thing”. Men do it too, you compare cars; golf clubs; boats; positions/titles in companies; bodies in the gym……. come on, be honest.  You do!

Ladies, I know that you will understand what I am taking about. If you are completely honest, you will admit that we compare ourselves with each other all- the- time :- our clothes, our hair, our kid’s behavior, kid’s school marks, who looks thinner, who is fitter, who appears more successful; who entertains the best, who cooks the best etc…

WE ALL DO IT. We compare ourselves with others and then when we don’t measure up to our perceived standards we get disappointed in ourselves. We tell ourselves we are not good enough, we tell ourselves we have failed in some way. The thing is, if we do this long enough we end up feeling like a failure in many areas of our lives. When we constantly put ourselves down and desire to be like other people, we loose sight of who we really are. We loose our identity. This makes it very difficult to love ourselves. You cannot love what you don’t know.

Who of you, can truly say they know themselves? Who of you knows:

• Why you react the way you do to the circumstances around you?
• Why certain things trigger emotions for you, whilst other things don’t?
• Why you are in the current job you are in?
• Why you are perhaps unemployed?
• Why you say yes when you want to say no?
• Why you eat the things you do?
• Why you never achieve your goals?
• Why you reach for that piece of cake when you are on diet?
• Why you continuously break promises to yourself?

When you start to unpack some of these questions, figure out what motivates you and discover the hidden treasures inside of yourself, then and only then, do you start to really know who you are. Only then, can you begin to discover how to love yourself. I don’t mean in a conceited way, I am talking about full blown acceptance of your self. This does not mean you will be perfect. It means respecting, honoring and loving yourself with all your imperfections, and yes it IS possible. I am living proof of that.