Living My True Self on Purpose

In this life, you live a life of love while you're alive or you will leave a legacy of love. Either way, it's all about l💙ve. -Edna J White So many times in our lives we get consumed with one thought or one objective that brings us and those around us no happiness. All because we were not validated in our childhood and we act out emotionally in response to others. We need to stop and realize that our lives have gone cold and that we offer nothing to those around us.  Do you have a love interest?  Do you enjoy days with your siblings?  Do you have healthy friendships?  Does your phone ring just from a friend reaching out to say hi? All these questions and more should be asked of yourself and take a few minutes to look into. Our lives are not always one thing or one-sided. Just work or just play. It's a balance that you are an addition to those titles or roles you play like daughter, son, sister, mother, wife, husband, worker, En...

“Everything I’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it.” —David Foster Wallace The new moon was beautiful, but it lasted only so long. Once it was over, it was over. In time, perfection is tainted by life’s hurried blemishes, to die a thousand deaths.  We often look at the things we enjoy—relationships, experiences, possessions—and we want to hold on to them forever. We expect that these things will continue to add the same value to our lives, day in and day out. However, they don't and we tend to hang on to that past value for dear life, like a wild animal to its season's first food.   And letting go of distractions or huge mental burdens (that can also become physical as stress and worries pile up), can be just that type of feat. Today, I hope I can share some techniques for letting go of emotional suffering. The best way to get rid of painful and negative emotions is to let them go. Learning to let go of the emotions is extremely difficult. Letting go ...

It’s such a simple thing to fall into somebody’s arms, to throw yourself into their bed, to learn the language of fingertips on skin.  In sex, we can find ourselves or lose ourselves, long moments of free-floating bliss where nothing else exists except mouths and hands and the sounds clothes make as they shed. But the mere act of being with someone isn’t enough to satisfy me. Intimacy goes beyond sharing my body; I want to share my soul.   From the couch, to the bed, out doors at a football game and even traveling the world together, there's that same old feeling, intimacy.  His voice, when he makes a joke and he knows you'll like the punch line, the disappointment you'll feel even across phone lines, those rays of intimate energy. We have so gone away from being that spirit being after living so long in this shell that we've forgotten how we operate.  We fall so short of happiness because of humanism.  Now I am not saying go out and leave your boy...

Sometimes we find ourselves trying just about everything to overcome our frustrating mental blocks. LOA, Affirmations, Visualizations, Positive thinking, prayer..... But nothing seems to work?  You're not alone.. And when we seek deeper to understand the reasons. We find there are things from our past that are blocking us subconsciously holding us back like a heavy thick rope tied around our leg. Often times as they are forgotten and deep-seated in our minds but the symptoms, well they don't go away. Here are 10 signs of emotional wounds or trauma's that may be holding you back and the  solution for them . 1.  Addictive behaviors – turning to drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling as a way to push difficult emotions and upsetting trauma content further away. 2. Not able to tolerate intense feelings - preferring to even avoid feelings by any number of ways 3. Having a variety of short but intense relationships, ...

One of life’s fundamental truths states: Ask and you shall receive. Isn’t that simple? Of course it is. The world responds to those who ask. Most people in this world, however, find themselves in settled lives, never really achieving or receiving what they hold in their dreams … because they just never ask. The truth is, when you take control of your life by asking for what you want and need, you can accomplish anything your heart desires. No doubt, you know of people who seem to walk into any situation and any relationship expecting success. They achieve success again and again because they’ve learned and acted on one simple truth:  You will reach your goals only with the  help of others. Here are seven ways to ensure that your asking gets results. 1. Ask with confidence. If you ask with confidence, you will get more than those who are hesitant and uncertain. A confident state of mind will affect everything else: your body posture, eye contact, tone...

As human beings we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. To any men reading this article, this is not just a “female thing”. Men do it too, you compare cars; golf clubs; boats; positions/titles in companies; bodies in the gym……. come on, be honest.  You do! Ladies, I know that you will understand what I am taking about. If you are completely honest, you will admit that we compare ourselves with each other all- the- time :- our clothes, our hair, our kid’s behavior, kid’s school marks, who looks thinner, who is fitter, who appears more successful; who entertains the best, who cooks the best etc… WE ALL DO IT. We compare ourselves with others and then when we don’t measure up to our perceived standards we get disappointed in ourselves. We tell ourselves we are not good enough, we tell ourselves we have failed in some way. The thing is, if we do this long enough we end up feeling like a failure in many areas of our lives. When we constantly put ourselves down and desi...

“Prepare yourself for success. You have to see it coming to get there.” - DestinyBooze   Have you pictured what your success will look like?   Are you able to describe it in vivid, accurate, emotion provoking detail? One of my favorite exercises I give to my students is writing down what your dream day looks like .  This is everything which goes on during this day.  It  includes what you see, what you feel, what you smell.   I want them to feel like they are there just describing what they see or just saw.  Why so much detail? The more real this picture is in your head, the better you are able to create it in your life now.    When your emotions are involved and multiple senses, the picture is more real like you have already experienced it.  Once you experience something, it is easier to recreate it. ​​​​​​​ The more detailed you have with the description, the easier it is for the universe to prov...